I will consider you a p*dophile or p*dophile/rape/abuse apologist if you:
• Are a MAP/NOMAP/SOMAP or among their supporters
• Consume “loli/shota” media or written/drawn child p*rn or defend those who do
• Participate in CGL(re)/DDLG or any variants or defend those who do
• Call yourself an anti-anti/pro-shipper or believe that fiction does not affect reality
• Deny certain people the right to describe their abuse with certain terms (e.g. “corrective rape”)
I will consider you ableist if you:
• Are uncritically against self-diagnosis
• Support Autism Speaks or any information they espouse
• Believe that schizophrenic and psychotic people are inherently dangerous/can’t make decisions for themselves
• Believe that having no/low empathy inherently makes someone abusive/evil
• Believe that people with NPD or ASPD are inherently abusive/evil or use the phrase “narcissistic abuse”
• Demonize addicts or use “crackhead” as an insult
• Use other ableist slurs (including “ps*chopath” or “s*ciopath”) or insults
• Don’t believe sanism/mentalism exists, don’t believe that it’s a real axis of oppression, or don’t include mentally ill people in your activism
• Mockingly refer to someone as “triggered” when they disagree with you or act out violently (yes, people still do this)
• Appropriate terminology from trauma survivors for kink purposes (such as “age-regressor” or “little”).
• Believe that accessibility is a privilege and not a right
• Don’t respect people's triggers, including those which you consider “strange”
• Believe that neurodivergent/disabled people or trauma survivors aren’t allowed to describe how their neurodivergency/disability/trauma impacts their gender/orientation or other identities
I will consider you transmisic/exorsexist if you:
• Misgender those you disagree with
• Believe that gender dysphoria is a prerequisite for being trans
• Consider being trans a medical condition or mental disorder
• Believe that medical transition is required of all trans people or that only “passing” trans people deserve to have their gender respected
• Believe that gender dysphoria is the same thing as gender incongruence
• Believe that gender dysphoria necessarily entails body dysmorphia
• Believe that nonbinary people aren’t allowed to be specific when describing their gender or use “microlabels/neolabels”
• Believe that nonbinary people must identify as trans for their gender to be valid, or that certain nonbinary people can’t identify as trans
• Believe that nonbinarity equates to a “third” gender or a lack of gender
• Believe that multigender people cannot define their attraction with so-called “contradictory” terms, such as being both sapphic/wlw and vincian/mlm
• Believe that trans people cannot have a complicated relationship to their attraction due to a complicated relationship to gender (such as being a transmasc wlw or transfem mlm)
• Force infantilizing terms on nonbinary people or problematize the terms nonbinary people create for themselves by labeling them “cringey”
• Refuse to acknowledge the existence of non-binarist cultures/cultures which, at large, recognize more than two genders (which is also racist)
• Believe that straight trans people have straight privilege/oppress cis gays
I will consider you inter-misic if you are perisex and deny intersex people the right to self-determination by:
• Insisting that intersexuality is inherently “disordered”
• Insisting that intersex people cannot identify as queer/trans/nonbinary/not cis by virtue of being intersex
• Denying intersex people the ability to define our genders in relation to our intersex status
• Forcing labels like “intergender” and “ipsogender” onto intersex people or claiming that we can’t be cis and/or hetero-
• Denying intersex people the ability to see our intersexuality as a personal identity
• Speaking over intersex people by insisting that we do not want to be included in the LGBTQ+ community
• Frequently using phrases like “LGBTQA”
• Denying intersex people the space within the LGBTQ+ community to speak about how we may feel marginalized by cisheteronormativity specifically for being intersex
I will consider you amisic if you:
• Believe asexuality and/or aromanticism don’t exist
• Believe asexuality and aromanticism are not on a spectrum
• Believe aspec people aren’t allowed to define the specifics of their attraction
• Force the SAM (split attraction model) onto aces or aros who only identify with one term or the other
• Are against the use of terms like “oriented/angled aroace” or “alterous/qplatonic attraction,” or believe that sexual and romantic are the only attraction types which matter
• Misdefine asexual/aromantic/aplatonic as anything other than “Not/rarely experiencing [a certain type of] attraction”
• Misrepresent demi-orientations as being in line with amatonormative experiences
• Conflate asexuality with aromanticism
• Believe that aspec people being anything other than sex/romance-averse (e.g. sex/romance- indifferent or favorable) invalidates their aspec identity
• Believe that aspec identities require “extra thought” before they can be identified with or that minors can’t identify with them
• Claim that aspec headcanons are “infantilizing”
• Use teens who misidentified as ace as “proof” that aspec identities are harmful/internalized homophobia/just “cishets wanting to be special”
• Claim that traumatized, mentally ill, or neurodivergent people can’t or shouldn’t identify with an aspec identity
• Call aspec identities a “white thing” or “cis thing”
• Believe that aspec identities are inherently “unhealthy”
• Believe aspec people aren’t oppressed for being aspec
• Believe that amatonormativity is not real or that allosexism not a facet of heterosexist oppression worth analyzing and dismantling
• Believe that aspec people shouldn’t have the space within the LGBTQ+/MOGAI communities to discuss their identities/oppression
Additionally, aces (and even aroaces) can be aromisic, and I will consider you aromisic if you:
• Frequently forget or exclude aros from your activism or aspec positivity, use phrases like “aspec and arospec,” only focus on the acemisia in exclusionism, or don’t listen to aros when they bring up aromisia in the ace community
• Believe that aros can’t have non-platonic, non-romantic relationships or that such relationships invalidate their aromanticism
• Use or support the usage of the term “queeragamic”
• Use some variation of the argument that asexuals can “at least love romantically” to validate asexuality
• Believe allosexuality is an inherently privileged/oppressive class and that alloaros therefore oppress aces
• Believe that aromantic heterosexuals are “basically straight”/have access to straight privilege
I will consider you LGBTQ+-misic if you:
• Believe that pronouns determine gender and vice versa; that women can’t use pronouns other than she/her, men can’t use pronouns other than he/him, or nonbinary people can’t use pronouns other than they/them; are against the use of neopronouns, including emojiself and nounself pronouns; or are otherwise a “pronoun policer”
• Believe that queer/non-cishet people who are not lesbian/sapphic cannot use butch and femme to describe themselves
• Think that queer is not a valid identity or that it cannot be reclaimed by anyone who isn’t cishet
• Are wholly and uncritically anti-MOGAI/neolabel/microlabel
• Believe that mspec people who don’t identify as bi- are inherently bimisic or transmisic
• Define bisexuality broadly as anything but “attraction to two or more genders”
• Define pansexuality as anything but “attraction to all genders/regardless of gender”
• Believe that “contradictory” labels are mutually exclusive or that individuals can’t have a complicated relationship with their gender or orientation (e.g. “nonbinary man” or “bi lesbian”)
• Believe that amative orientation labels aren’t a valid way to describe one’s attraction
• Call yourself a “fujoshi/fundashi” or consume works of yaoi/works which fetishize mlm relationships
• Associate TERFism and amisia with lesbians and vice versa
• Frequently “forget” the lesbian flag in pride posts/excuse its absence with “There are too many lesbian flags to choose from” or “They’re included under the gay/rainbow flag”
• Identify as or support those who identify as “vixenamoric” or “todamoric”
• Believe that allosexual alloromantic people cannot or should not use the SAM (split attraction model) to define their attraction
• Believe that allosexual alloromantic people cannot have significant others in non-romantic, non-platonic relationships (e.g. alterous, qplatonic)
• Believe that individuals cannot have multiple significant others in informed, mutually consensual, simultaneous relationships or that a relationship cannot involve three or more parties
Lastly, this entire thread addresses the transmisogynistic statements made by a particular individual, but could serve as a useful reference for how not to talk about trans women. Be warned that it is lengthy, quite negative in tone, and covers a lot of heavy subjects (especially if you choose to read the posts linked); but if you’re TME, it could be very helpful in understanding the more insidious forms of transmisogyny which run through trans circles. I highly recommend you read through this one before sending me an ask.